Mean Girls

2-12-15

I got Mean Girled.

As I hung out at practice last night, I chatted with one of the moms that I have gotten to know over the past couple years. She is super nice and because of soccer and school, I have seen her around for years. Turns out she also lives very close to Eydie. As we swapped mom stories and other fun things, Mega Bitch came up to us. Her boys were practicing across the field.

Mega Bitch and Eydie mom are both part of the Adams click. The click has many of the PTA moms that all have been volunteers at the school since their kids were in kindergarten, which means many have known each other for at least 4 years. I got to know many of them, and for the most part, they are all very nice ladies. I befriended the PTA president early on since she was still sort of new to the school. I also ended up being friendly with moms of kids the boys were friends with. That being said, I am not really one of the school moms. I don’t go to the school enough to make an impact on all of the students and I don’t get to be in classrooms or do special events as much as I would like. 

However, due to the time I have spent there, and my high profile soccer presence, many do know me.

As you may have known, Mega Bitch has hated me since day one. When her kids were on the Creepers she seemed cold towards me and the whole school year her kids would say hello to me but she would blatantly ignore me. During the Christmas program, her kids and the boys were playing together before things got started and I got the distinct impression that she felt like her boys were slumming it by hanging out with my boys.

So when she came up to talk with Eydie mom, I thought this would be a perfect way to hopefully make it less tension filled.

She walked up and didn’t make eye contact with me. She knows who I am. She could have looked at me and smiled or nodded some kind of greeting. Instead, she very blatantly ignored me. Eydie mom tried to mostly include me in the conversation, but even with that, I knew I was an outsider in so many ways.

I made small talk when I could, but she was never friendly at all. It was crazy! I didn’t think that as a 39 year old woman that I would still need to deal with such childish behavior from other grown women? Look, I shouldn’t be surprised when this is a woman who loves the Raiders, but petty jabs aside, I don’t get why she would be so awful to me. She is clearly a very dedicated and devoted mother. She always dresses up for Halloween and she is very active in helping her one son with his diabetes. So why would you reject a fellow mother who is just as good?

Ken still thinks that this is an Alpha war, which I suppose would make sense if I was somehow trying to take her spot somewhere. But being that most of the women in PTA are Alphas, why in the world would I be a threat?

Ultimately, I know that I am also not one of the kind of moms most of the women are at the school. I am not just talking about my purple locks or my robust figure, either. I am the mom who doesn’t mind her child dropping F-Bombs at home. I am the mom that makes her kids go to bed at a reasonable time. I am the mom who isn’t going to freak out if her third grader loves Hunger Games. I am the mom who will talk openly about my children about current events, both in the world and what is going on with people they know. I don’t sugar coat most things, and because of this stance, I know my boys are more rounded than most kids their age. Perhaps this is really what the threat is.

I will continue to be nice. I have considered the overly friendly approach that I have sometimes taken on to just mess with someone. I did this with an old boss of mine once and she ended up being a lovely lady who wasn’t as mean as I thought she was. Perhaps that is the treatment Mega needs. Then again, do I really need to take her on as a project?

I hold my head up high knowing that her issues are not mine and in so many ways I feel sorry for someone so petty. I don’t have to worry about not fitting into a click I have no need to be a part of, and ultimately it makes for entertaining interactions. Who knows, she may end up the basis for a novel I write some day and she is the villain. Hell, it worked for Tina Fey!